Excellent suggestions Perna AND all--I just came across this as i was going to bed.
This helped me a lot.
I have the same issues with my mom--she wants me sick and dependent upon her so either a) she won't be alone or b) so I won't grow up, marry, and have my own life---which I deserve.
My mom feels she has to "save" me from a harsh world----
when really, the world isn't harsh-it's pour perception.

Good posts.