you know i have been with my t for a very long time...off and on... and i still worry about telling him how i am feeling sometimes... i got brave enough to tell him the last time we were together and his response to me was very caring and supportive... i think you t would be too... at times he has to pin me down to make sure that i am safe...but mostly he would rather i said it then keep it inside... i am glad you found someone you could talk to safely...lyn