For me self care comes out of self love. When I'm feeling worthless I don't care for myself properly. I wear the same clothes for days and even sleep in them. Then I end up feeling really gross, thus feeling even more useless. It turns into a vicious circle.

I don't know if it's self respect or respect for others that finally hauls my nasty a@@ in the shower. I'll take my motivation wherever I can get it. I'm not picky. I'm extremely greatful to have a housekeeper who comes once a week and does the hard stuff. Cleaning the floors, vacuuming, cleaning the bathrooms, etc. I tried doing everything she does once when she had a day off. I almost killed myself and was in bed for 3 days with a backache.

Those of us here at the forum who live alone and don't have any help....my hat is off to you and you have my deepest respect!!! I don't know how you manage it and ANYTHING you do towards self help and self care is a big accomplishment. Give yourself credit where credit is due