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Originally Posted by Carmina
With me it's not that I wasn't allowed but that I had a mum who had mental health issues of her own and whenever things got stressful would threaten to kill herself, which was sometimes a daily event (although it was all empty threats, she's still alive). So not only did I have to learn to keep my mouth shut and be very careful not to upset her (which required a lot of self monitoring and also learning to read emotions and behaviour), and to walk on eggshells around her, but also when she did blow up I felt to blame and carried that for a long time.
She also thought she was dying of cancer so would tell us she wasn't going to be around for long (which I think was a combination of her own depression - it does feel like a cancer eating away at you inside - and her own mum dying young of cancer).
I was also scared of her and my main nightmare had her in it, as she was just unpredictable and would sometimes blow up angrily.
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That's an incredible load for child to bare

. You said yourself "walking on eggshells." I grew up with an alcoholic mother and I had the same feelings. My problems weren't "important" in comparison. It took me decades and finally going to therapy to grow past that and start to have some semblance of a normal happy live and love.
I've had very vivid dreams where I was strangling my mother and they were quite disturbing. I finally came to believe that I was acting out my anger and feelings of abandonment in safe environment of my dreams. As I have gotten past that the dreams went away.
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