Hey Koolz. I think I ultimately understand what you're talking about. I am male, and I'm perfectly fine with being male, but I struggle with the expectations of how I should act as one. I do not feel masculine at all. I am much, much more in the middle of the spectrum, and I struggle to keep male friendships, because I suspect I make them a little uncomfortable (there could be other issues with my personality I'm less aware of too, though).

The strong stereotypes for each gender don't make me terribly uncomfortable until people start talking to me as if I "get" certain things about being male (not that I blame them; I look like a normal guy). I don't usually get those things they're talking about. And I can't claim to get certain things about being female of course, either. So I do feel kind of adrift somewhere in the middle, not really a member of either camp.

I'm mostly comfortable with this, and there isn't a lot of conflict inside of me (like you said, I'm not confused either), but explaining it to people is stressful, and I tend to keep my mouth shut.