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Old Oct 15, 2017, 12:42 PM
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Originally Posted by wildflowerchild25 View Post
I’m kind of in the same boat. My husband died a little over two years ago. At the beginning of the summer I had a casual fling with a man and That made me realize I was ready to start dating again. But now I have this huge secret that I have to carry around. I have no idea when to reveal. Do you do it in the beginning, so they can run off before you get attached? Do you wait, to show them you’re pretty much normal (I’ve been stable for awhile)? I don’t know. I can’t even wear short sleeves in front of a date because of the self injury scars.

Right now I’m talking to someone. I’ve been on three dates with him. He has revealed that he has seasonal affective disorder, bad enough that he takes an antidepressant throughout the winter. He’s suffering from depression right now. So maaaaaaaybe he will be understanding when I reveal bipolar. But maybe not. I’m not going to bother until I know where this is going, but if we end up agreeing to exclusivity, I’m gonna have to tell him.

Anyway good luck with the dating scene. It’s tough no matter what!
I have told one of my dates after about 3 times of seeing each other that I was bipolar (The only person I was successful for with for about 2 two months. The reason we broke it off was another matter not related to my bipolar). She didn't seemed to bothered about it after I explained how it affect me. My opinion for myself is that I don't want to go to deep in a relationship, and hurt myself by telling them to late. I rather face lesser pain first then go on for awhile, and get hit by worse pain from getting to know the other person.
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