This makes sense to me. I live in pajamas if I don’t have to see anyone and sometimes I shower because I want to and like feeling clean but if I’m going to be alone for the weekend I might not shower. I do enjoy going somewhere dressed nicely but mostly because I feel like people see me as more put-together and I feel better because of that.

I recently moved into supportive housing and I actually feel a little more comfortable not forcing myself to be well put-together all the time. I don’t feel like I’m failing so much any more.

Socially I think most of the time I’m just trying to fit in out of politeness/childhood training. I have a co-morbid autism spectrum disorder though. Letting my quirks out are also advantageous in my field (theatre).