You give very good reasons for why you feel so positive about certain individuals, like this supervisor. It goes beyond the feeling you have for people who are friends. This is the type of person many would describe as a "mentor," someone who can help a person rise to their potential. It seems early in the relationship she was being a willing mentor to you.

Having someone who could "mentor" you felt good to you, and that is very understandable. Then you became overly "dependent" on the support she seemed to offer. You started focusing on her the way a son or daughter focuses on a parent. You focused on her for direction on job performance and for moral support in general. Just being near her probably gave you an increased sense of security. None of this seems that bad, at first glance. However, it can get to seem babyish. It can get to where the person you see as a mentor starts to feel "used." Her goal in being supportive of you was to see you relying more and more on yourself. Then she coukd feel successful as a "mentor." Instead, you increased how much you relied on her, particularly for emotional support. It seemed like you wanted to have her as a friend or a substitute parental figure. That's not what mentors want to be, usually. A mentor can offer to become a personal friend, but that is up to her you can't assume that. Usually, mentors are not looking to be close friends. It might seem confusing that someone who seems to care so much about you is also wanting to keep a certain distance - to maintain a "professional" relationship. Actually, that is part of their desire to see you grow in "self-reliance."

When you keep overly focusing on the mentor, a good mentor will back away, so you are forced to rely on you. If you keep trying to stay as close as you can, the mentor is really forced to stop being a mentor, to break you of a bad habit. When you fight that, you are betraying the person who meant to help you. Then that person can become frustrated to the point of wanting as little contact with you as possible. This is not a case of "hating" you. This is a case of them putting you "in your place."