T phrased it as "we are building a relationship". She encourages/invites me to reach out to her between sessions (i never do); and I think she is expecting me to "bond" to her in someway, but I can't--not right now. I didn't even bond to my own mother. I'm sure it's a trust issue and I have walls up and she respects where I am right now.

And, I don't know how you actively bond. I feel like it's just something that happens as you get to know your T and begin to trust and feel safe with her, which is slow going for me. I think the point is to repair broken bonds from your past, which is supposed help one heal---particularly from traumatic attachments.