No, I only need to feel comfortable with them. Like I need to feel "good vibes" from them. For example I never felt these good vibes with my previous one, when I first saw her. So I was anxious or on edge with her. So I think I need to have a first good impression. Then I think if there is this element, the bond will happen on its own, if one feels comfortable.

By bond I don't mean that I see the T as friend, or that I want to know them more etc...I don't want to know how is my therapist outside of therapy, nope. It's too weird to imagine the T outside the office xD By bond I mean the therapeutic relationship, based on trust, feeling comfortable, seeing the T as safe.

Also I think the presence of the bond depends on the type of therapy. CBT therapists work less with the therapeutic relationship, mine for example never adressed transference etc, while psychodinamic and other "deep therapies" for example think that the relationship with the client is important.