I imagined my ex and I could go down the path of friendship. He cheated on me and left me for his mistress when I was fifty. I actually felt peaceful and happy after I got over the shock of being in such a vulnerable position. It seems he has an agenda that he is never going to get over with me. He wants to fix me for the sake of my children, for him, and for the way I manage my divorce settlement. It sounds like I am a cat. I am going to go to therapy to learn how to tell someone to mind their own business in a firm neutral way.