Hello

After a fight that escalated yesterday morning, I called the cops on my husband (after threatening many times during past fights), the cops came, they were very kind to me. And ultimately they took my husband to jail. I wasn't hurt badly, physically. I did a good job fighting him off but he sure tried. The last 24 hrs have been surreal and I am trying to grapple with his behavior and our future. I met with my therapist yesterday and we talked a lot about how his going to jail and the aftermath is not my fault and is hopefully a wake up call for him to get some help.

I haven't told my parents and I'm dreading it. I just don't know how to tell them this happened. I'm their only and they have taken my husband like a son. My mom heard through a wall one of our fights a few months ago and worried for me. I assured her that I was ok and could take care of myself. Now I'm worried she is going to freak out and tell me she told me so and never speak with him again.

He is my daughter's father and a great one at that. He is the love of my life and has a bad side that can get violent. At this point we are on a no contact order, he can't come within 100 ft of me or the house until he goes to court tomorrow and the DA decides to press charges or not. I guess I'm asking for assistance on 1). How to tell my parents and 2). Where to go from here if I'm not ready to call it quits on my marriage but recognize that a lot needs to happen in order for me to trust him, feel safe with him, feel like a valued member of our family and his life. What do I do when this order is up? How do I get all to him the first time?

Any advice would be so appreciated and helpful. Thank you. Please no victim shaming.