I also try to bond with my T.
And I have to say that when we're really mentally connected or we're talking about our relationship I feel much better (in general) - more relaxed, safe, happier, calm - even outside of the T's room.
It's difficult for me because generally I'm really independent and this closer relationship really scares me. Especially that someone can be important to me when I'm only a client
On the other hand, when this bond happens - it's much better! So I started to try harder

I'm not sure what does it mean "actively seek".
For now, I just try to focus on this relationship during the whole week (from time to time, not all the time :P), I talk to T. about my dreams related to therapy, and we talk about what I feel in this relationship. I try to make T an important person for me, a person I can miss etc.

For me it seems to be really healing.