Sometimes it helps to separate out the different parts of ourselves, because they can have very different emotions. For instance, you may have a very young part who wants loads of care, kindness, and reassurance from your T. That's not shameful or childish, it simply reflects unmet needs from some time in your childhood. It's not your fault your needs weren't met, nor that as a result you're still carrying these feelings. And it's a good thing it's coming out in therapy. Nothing to be hard on yourself about.

Meanwhile you also have the adult, independent part who wants to go it alone, to not rely on the T as much, and which stops you from texting T. As this part gets stronger and you get more independent -- which from the adult part's perspective is a good thing -- the child part feels T getting farther away and feels angry and distressed.

I think the child part needs absolute acceptance and validation, because in my experience you can't ever just shove feelings under the rug. They need to be accepted in order to eventually quieten.