Mostlylurking,
T also tells me I need to treat myself with compassion, but it is difficult to summon compassion when I am simultaneously dealing with the younger part that needs reassurance and dealing with anger from my independent part. I do know that I need to give myself validation and acceptance. I think it has been helpful for people to remind me of this although my T tells me this all the time, because when I am in the middle of the two separate parts, my goal is to try to make it through the "episode". It's like it is all-consuming. However, I seem to learn something new each time I go through the episodes, so maybe next time I can at least try to reassure myself, validate myself, and treat myself with compassion. T is able to do this for me, but at this point, I am not for some reason? It really helped me understand the process when you said that my child part was feeling further from T and was upset and distressed. This feels like exactly what is going on. I appreciate your reply