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Old Oct 17, 2017, 12:24 AM
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Originally Posted by TroubledSpouse View Post
This is a text from my spouse. I'm questioning my own sanity and reality and don't want to set you up to side with me, so I figured the less info maybe the better

What do you take from this?

"I'm upset with you. I'm also embarrassed. You storming out of the house, slamming your truck door...all in front of mason....maybe you don't give a damn what he thinks, but I do. Totally humiliated. I'm beyond sick and tired of you dragging on an on and on our arguments into days on in. I'm not saying I want a divorce...but I'm checking out. That means I give up, I will not try. You obviously don't want me talking, looking or breathing in your direction. I guess I'll just be your roommate for the time being who is mute...b/c good forbid I try to make small talk or appoligize. I will not talk, ask you anything or invite you anywhere with us. If you want to hang with the boys and myself feel free to come along or ask. I won't be asking you b/c you rather live in silence. That's fine... we'll just ignore one another...that's totally healthy! I would like to help you with Halloween decorations tonight or whenever you feel up to finishing them...we can work on those in silence as well. I'll be going camping with y'all as well and don't you worry, I won't try and speak or or show any kind of affection there either. I guess we can keep the peace that way if we're both just mute! Sounds awesome! "
I see you are new
what you do and dont do in your marriage is up to you and your spouse, its not up to me to say one or the other is right or wrong and what have you.

what I can tell you is that when I am my wife have problems we find ways to work it out and sometimes that means we go to couples/ marriage therapy where a therapist can help us.

my suggestion is let your spouse know whether you agree to their terms, whether you want to be separated, divorced or work things out, and if you do whether you want someone to help you with that, there are many great marriage and family therapists that work on marriage issues.

Last edited by sabby; Oct 17, 2017 at 02:27 PM. Reason: Administrative edit