When I first began therapy years ago, the last thing I wanted to do was bond with my T! I thought therapy was just about getting advice. But it happened pretty quickly, and I kept trying to deny that I cared about my T.

With other T's, I don't think I actively sought to bond, but apparently that is my pattern, so I did bond.

My current T encourages the bond because she thinks it's necessary to heal my attachment issues. In any case, I liked her from Day 1, so it was a natural occurrence. I need deep connections with others. If I didn't feel that bonding, I probably wouldn't have felt comfortable talking about some of my issues.

It may in some ways be easier to tell a "stranger" embarrassing or difficult things, but then you don't go very deep, in my opinion.