A month ago, I asked him not to walk around naked, and he got really upset with me. He doesn't seem to be able to take criticism. I wasn't even criticizing. I was telling him it makes me uncomfortable. He accused me of body shaming him. He was really upset, and it was really weird. He started saying things like "you do it too!" (No, I don't. I said this, and he said, you walk around in a towel from the bathroom to your room - that's true, I do. And I told him I would stop. That didn't assuage him though. I think because he doesn't care). "with your liberal views I can't believe you're body shaming me!" and "It was an accident! I didn't mean for you to see me!" (I said I live in the same house, our rooms are right next to each other) and "So, these are my values! You're infringing on my values!" (I just said that his "Values" make me uncomfortable) oh, and "don't ever go to a nudist colony!" (I said "I won't"). He also accused me of sexualizing his body.
He twists things. He thinks I came at him, being mean and shaming him. I didn't tell him his body was disgusting. I WAS frustrated with him, when I said it. But I don't see it as attacking him. I guess he does. Once he got upset, he started yelling, deflecting, and blaming me. To which, I lost my cool too. He would not leave me alone at one point, and it was really upsetting to me. I asked him and told him multiple times to leave me alone. I was gonna lose my cool. So I screamed at him when he wouldn't. I know it was wrong. I was so upset. I don't know. I lose it sometimes. But I called him a psychopath (he's not one), a narcissist (he could be), and said he'd be a terrible manager. Which, he strives to be in a "high ranking" role at a job (he's had trouble finding a job for years).
This is a 32 year old man. I'm 34. He is now giving me the silent treatment and leaving the room when I walk in. This is really hard for me, because I really don't like being ignored, and I'd gotten over it quickly. I also felt like we were working on our relationship and it had gotten better. I tried to mend it and patch it up. I apologized a lot. Over a period of time. I tried to talk to him. I asked him yesterday if he was still mad at me, to which he replied "no," and when I said "but you keep leaving the room when I enter," he said "what did I just SAY?" In an authoritarian and snippy tone, and then walked away.
There is nothing else I can do, and I'm going to have to let it go. I am moving in a week and a half, and for that I'm glad. Currently, we are both at my parents. It just really hurts a lot to have him doing this. I think also, because I've been struggling emotionally lately, I'm affected.
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