Alteredstates....You have expressed my feelings and experiences completely, and, like Chocolatelover, better than I can do at this point. I have had the same experiences, and I do now regret that I was so willing to bond with men who apparently didn't value me, or the companionship I offered in the 10 years since my divorce. I divorced at age 47, and during that time I too have met men who have been thru the "wringer" a few times around and are bitter and stingy....also the sociopathic users, stalkers, and con artists. This has not made me hate men, but at this point in my life it seems better to focus on self-care. Also, I've come to the point of not wanting a male presence in my space 24/7!
Love
Patty