Just like it says....

My wife and I have had our issues over the years, but I really think she is not a very sexual person either.

I have never been a player. This sounds bad, but before I met my wife, I never had to be. I had (willing) girlfriends . I treated these girls and women well, and tried to be a gentleman around them. I honestly never had to seduce anyone. Alone time just became intimate time or intense time. I also never lived with any of them, or saw them everyday. Marriage is a completely different environment.

Being pursued matters to my wife. Being treated differently matters to my wife. Being "nice" doesn't cut it. Effort and setting the stage matters to my wife.

Basically, I don't know WTF I'm doing when it comes to seduction, or how to transition from a "nice date" to "Ooooooh yeah.... This is happening."

Any ideas???