If her psych/ therapist is right about he actually having
BPd then I can see where i may have made a mistake.
I did listen for a long time...finally I said:
why dont you try pscychotherapy...ease off on the booze
& pills ---I did not lay all this on her at once BTW..

I thought she just needed to learn some basic coping skills-
like I did-skills my parents never really taught me...

NOw---I see that these suggesions and attepmts to help
push her further into behaviour.

So pachyderm...you are right to sya: "Dont Push"..
I caught this a bit late Im afraid...

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> i wonder how i could turn her towards getting help.

Unless you know for certain where it is, do not try. The greatest help for now (I think) is to listen, listen, listen. Do not try to make her do anything. Listen. And if you don't understand something, it is OK to ask a question -- if the question is really a question, if it is really meant to get information, to help you understand something.

Listen. Don't say you are listening; just do it. It may be OK to invite more talking from her if she stops; I don't know.

Listen.

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