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Originally Posted by TroubledSpouse
and don't want to set you up to side with me, so I figured the less info maybe the better
What do you take from this?
"I'm upset with you.
I'm beyond sick and tired of ... our arguments into days on in.
I give up,
I won't be asking you b/c you rather
live in silence.
we'll just
ignore one another......
we can work on those
in silence as well.
don't you worry,
I won't try and speak
I guess we can keep the peace that way
if we're both just mute! "
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What do I make of this? With your stated desire to make something of it and not pander you?(aka side with you)
Sounds like the "discussions""conversations""arguments" carry on and on without resolution nor sense of growing together.
Followed by silence. Perhaps you build a wall of silence to not make whatever you have to say worse or you shut down in emotional inner turmoil or anger and it's when silent she feels cast off. Like the emotional intimacy went out the window? Sounds like this is not the example she wants in front of your children and perhaps shame because that dream of a happily ever after bubble burst? And this relationship isn't growing together instead apart.
Might take more than just saying you all want change the idea of a neutral third party whether therapist or pastor can help work on those communication skills that people aren't naturally born with.
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