Don't really have advice for you--just wanted to say I've been there, too, regarding my marriage counselor. Particularly when I found out about his wife's illness and eventual death (which he hadn't intended to share, despite disclosing A LOT about himself). He told me how he felt like he'd messed up, because the caring was only supposed to go in one direction (T to client). So of course I felt like I was doing something wrong by caring....But he said that no, it was on him, not me, that I wasn't doing anything wrong. So, just commiserating...Just know that it's OK for you to care about him. And yes, it is difficult to get support from someone but not be able to give it back...