I feel a lot of compassion for my former T. He also shared a lot about himself with me, more often than not without my prompting. When it became problematic for me was when he shared the really heavy stuff. When he shared the emotions about his mother or his own self-critical image. I'm a caretaker by nature, and I felt bad that I had burdened him. That I in some way wanted to ease his own suffering.

That's what I think LT's MC meant by that it's supposed to go one way. That they're supposed to feel that way about us, but it's their job to minimize the amount that we feel that toward them. It's not a 100% science, because that dehumanizes us as the clients. But it's also the T's job to manage their countertransference outside of the therapeutic environment.