I get what you're saying. It's normal to feel compassion for somebody we feel close to. I don't think the "rules" say we can't feel compassion or care for our t's...but they do restrict what actions we can take to show our compassion.

I understand why t's would not want to go overboard in talking about their problems or want their clients to try to caretake their feelings. But to restrict a client's ability to voice concern, or to be secretive in not telling clients anything at all about their situation when the client obviously knows something is wrong, is taking it way too far, in my opinion.