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Originally Posted by DP_2017
I get that it is their job but it's also unfair to ask people like myself to "hold your emotions" or whatever and just be someone I'm not. It's intensely painful.
Of course its their job to manage their feelings, it's not like mine is sobbing or anything but I know he has gone through some heavy **** lately and it kills me that I can't be supportive. I wish he could see the real me, but sadly I can never be myself in therapy 100%
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I'm not sure if this was a reply to me or not, because if it wasn't I'm sorry in advance. But I sincerely hope that you're not interpreting what I said as that you should hold your emotions. You shouldn't have to. Your emotions are valid. It's okay that your T brings out the caretaker in you. I'm also a caretaker by nature, and so it wasn't difficult for my former T to bring it out of me. And it was okay for me to feel that way.
My point is that it's the T's job to hold their emotions. It's their job to try to minimize the desire for clients to take care of their therapists. They're literally trained to do it. It's good that he hasn't wept or anything. That's probably when I'd draw the line for ethics.