Thanks to everyone who responded. I particularly found the personal thoughts about 'romantic' and 'erotic' helpful. My T doesn't attach the word 'transference' to our discussions...it's simply me having romantic and/or erotic feelings and where they may be coming from. (The general research re: erotic feelings appears to be learning 'what feelings are behind the feelings.') I'm grateful that T is dealing with this subject seriously and sensitively. It feels like hell...but unrequited love hasn't ever been fun for the suitor.