I think that you both need to step back and look at how you're treating each other. Is he short with you because he feels you are mean to him? Are you mean to him because he's short to you?

Some of our behaviors are in response to other people's behavior, and when there is no communication in the home, then behaviors continue to happen, feelings get more involved, and pretty soon, both are miserable with no way of expressing that except through more behavior.

I think marriage counseling is a great idea because I believe you both are at fault and the crime? Miscommunication. Neither of you should be afraid of telling each other what you want. If you want him to take care of you while you are sick, ask him. And appreciate what he does. Thank him and show him you're grateful, otherwise, why would he continue. And when he wants taken care of, he can ask you, and let him know how much his appreciation makes your day.

So many couples now a days are not communicating, expecting each other to read their minds, and it's impossible. So many things go unsaid, and honestly, talking things through makes things so much easier to deal with. Perhaps his anxiety would go down if he was able to express himself at home.

I think this is just a small bump in the road, and you both can get through this, but make sure when you ask him about counseling - you're not blaming all the problems on him...you need to be willing to make a change too. Good Luck!