I'm dealing with it right now. I'm angry about a way that a friend has been behaving towards me. I am clearly justified in saying something but I have not been able to. I must, though, as I am angry and it is unhealthy for me to not confront. It is, as you say, "standing upper myself". Terribly painful for me, when I am put in the position to have to do it. In my case, I am not worried about hurting the other person. I am afraid that they will be angry with me. Or worse - consider me to be crazy, dramatic, a problem... You see, this person means a lot to me but doesn't know me very well. She sees the obsessive, overthinking, long winded part of me. Not the part that agonizes over every word, feels guilty and humiliated every time they stick up for themselves, takes 6 hours to rite a note it would take someone else 15 minutes to write, bends over backwards to avoid conflict. Ahh. It stinks, but it has consumed me for a week. I just find it too painful to think about for more than a few minutes. But it is eating at me, just eating at me. And MUST be addressed.