It makes total sense that it's a trigger, as we are in our most vulnerable place when in a crisis. So why not change the availability of the trigger itself?

Next time you're in a crisis, don't email your T. Call and ask for an emergency appointment. Rely on your husband for support until you can get in and see your T. Most importantly, discuss the plan with your T. Distractions and self soothing can be used until you can get in to see her. Or otherwise set up a crisis plan that doesn't involve her except for scheduling.

I think it is difficult to get what you need in the way you are trying to get it. It's like setting yourself and your T up for failure.

Either that, or don't have another crisis