There is much to contemplate here. Thank you.

For the record, I didn't quite mean that the ONLY thing I had to offer someone was my ability to be "chief cook and bottle-washer," as chocolatelover so eloquently put it, but I did mean it in the sense of contributing "physically" to the household. Physically, meaning to include the financial aspect of a contribution as well as a literal physical relief.

Having someone take care of their daily personal needs, frees them up to, say, work more towards their/our goals, or allows them to relax so as not to send themselves to an early grave. A great deal of relief must come from this, does it not?

Instead of having 2 full-time jobs for one person - one at the "office," and the other at home, the shared responsibility of one taking on one role as financial provider, and the other taking on the role as "homemaker."

The post was not meant to discuss the "intellectual" aspects of the relationship, only the physical.

Does this make sense? I can't quite figure out how to express this properly.

The problem is, I believe my b/f(?) does not see the value in the physical services (of running his household) that I provide him. I think he would rather have an extra paycheck.

And for the record, he does NOT support me. I have a pension, so it is not as if he is in any way being strained financially because I am there. He might not like having to pay for some of the extras, but he would certainly have to pay a hellofalot more, if he had to take me out on "real" dates. Know what I mean?