well, I feel the advice I can offer is that you won't be able to change them. So many people have issues with their in-laws, and because your hubby is having problems with his family too, I would not take it so personally.

Think of some of the things you could do to deal with the situation. You are going to have to change how you deal with the situation, because changing a whole group of people and their behaviors realistically won't happen.

It's a tough situation, but perhaps not spending as much time with his family is a start. And if you feel as though you are being ignored, especially by certain people, how about not talking to them? That way you won't get upset and you may have a more enjoyable experience.

I have to admit that seeing my boyfriend's parents is not always the best thing in the world, and often times I felt they ignored me or didn't care about me, but I realized that they come with the territory, and it's something I'll have to deal with. Now, when I'm around them, I already expect it, don't take it personally (because they are like that with my bf too), and my bf and I vent all the way home about it! I just follow their lead, because sometimes, in relationships like that - you just have to make things work...

I wish you luck, and trust me, I feel your pain...