thanks Perna, i just didnt understand ... its weird to me, ive known some people, really nice people, who knew they were dysfunctional, in codependant relationships, etc, and they chose to remain in them and stay the way they were...

happy being dysfunctional i suppose... hard for me to fathom... but, like i'm normal or something...

the thing was, i watched them emotionally abuse their children.. but everyone was laughing, like good times..

the kids have grown and now of course have serious complexes of their own... very sad in the larger picture..