hon I do understand your pain. with my mom she wanted me to quit my job to be there but I could not do that. so I would go up on the weekends but her sisters were always there doing it all. whatever I said was a big fat NO! heck it was my mom! she was only their sister! anyway just wanted to let you know I know how you are feeling. maybe your brother is trying to rid himself of some guilt himself! please take care of yourself. tell your brother that you need time with your dad. that you have things you want to say to him in private. if he is just laying there unable to speak or eat or anything don't worry about feeding him. he is probably past that point. but you do need your time to let him know things. luv ya hon