Having Aspergers is a challenge & social skills is a HUGE part of the challenge along with problems communicating. With it being a spectrum condition, the range of how much of a challenge these things are individually, varies with each person.

Having Aspergers isn't an excuse for not learning proper behavior but it is the reason why you have to work harder to grasp the concepts & change the socially unacceptable behaviors you are struggling with.

I hope your case worker helps work with you on the issues of your behavior that have caused you problems here & works with you to help you gain a deeper understanding & awareness.

I was married to a guy with undiagnosed Aspergers for 33 years & every time I asked him why he did a behavior that was unacceptable, his answer was always "I don't know". Like you, he was totally unaware that his behaviors were not acceptable to everyone around him......but it doesn't matter whether intentions are good or bad, behavior that is unacceptable to others is unacceptable & needs to be changed.

I do understand how hard that is because most times when I tried to explain it to him he would look at me as if I were speaking in a foreign language no matter how many different ways I tried to explain it to him because his mind doesn't work like others & when a thought was in there, it was almost impossible to get through a different concept about what was wrong with his way of thinking.

In reading your thread, I can see how this is also happening with you.

You just don't understand why people react negatively to your behavior that to them is very obnoxious when you don't see yourself as acting that way. The thing is that non-asperger minds think hey, every time I act this way it makes people get irritated with me, I NEED TO CHANGE, rather than say just people don't me "looking up to them" & thinking that is all there is to it.

If we want to be totally honest about "looking up to someone", your behavior is inappropriate. When we admire someone we admire from a distance. We soak up learning from them ONLY when it is NORMAL to be around them & we don't force extra time to be around them.

Have you ever filled a glass full of water to the point where it's rounded over the top of the glass & one more drop of water makes the water in the glass overflow? Well people have a certain level of tolerance for obnoxious behavior like the glass filling with water....but after their tolerance level reaches the FULL point, they no longer have the willingness to tolerate any more & they OVERFLOW & get mad & end the relationship because they feel it is the only way to stop having to deal with your unacceptable behavior because YOU just haven't understood what they have tried to tell you, that its your behavior that is the problem & you NEED TO STOP. That last time pushed them into overflow like the last drop of water that causes the glass of water to overflow.

You may hear what they have been telling you but you don't comprehend (understand) what they are telling you & they get frustrated & angry because they feel that you haven't been listening & understanding them & then want nothing more to do with you.

I am sure your supervisor was nice because she does like you...it's YOUR BEHAVIOR she didn't like & knew she was no longer going to have to tolerate it. I am sure she hopes you will learn & GROW from this experience & maybe in the future will have gained skills that will make you more FUNCTIONAL in the work place.

My ex-H was a very nice person, his behaviors made him a horrible husband....that didn't mean he wasn't a nice person. Sometimes we just get to a place where we can no longer tolerate behaviors when there is an inability or REFUSAL to change.

I truly hope your caseworker & hopefully therapist can help you understand what REALLY happened with your job situation, not what you THINK HAPPENED & can teach you better skills & what is SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR so you can practice & learn how to better work in an environment you are capable of handling