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Originally Posted by shattered sanity
how can I be nice about the fact that I want to stop talking to tara?, and stop being friends with her
it was a good idea when we started talking- she seemed nice and she seemed like a caring person
but now I find out that
A she only uses me when she wants help with something, and even when I offer to help her she turns me down and tells me she'll wait for her boyfriend who hardly even talks to her
B she lied about her mental illness which both her and her friends have told me, and tara herself said she used it to get attention
and C, she's rarely interested in what I do- it's all I did this, I did that, etc. I try to use her for support, but she's rarely interested.
the problem for me, the biggist problem, is that she's always calling me best friend forever, awesome friend etc
she even plans what she wants to do with me ahead of time.
I don't exactly want to be horrible to her, but I do want to stop being friends with her and let her know gently that she's just using me for when ever she needs to talk or for when ever she needs help
what would you do
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I'd tell her what you don't like and what you're looking for in a friend. Stand up to your needs if questioned or disagreed with. You may reach to a more mutual agreement or disagreement, which can help on making a more mutual decision on whatever to do about your relationship.