Yes, my husband's ex-wife is a "complainer" about what's wrong with her life and men don't seem to like to listen to her but I don't mind too much.

I would try for some sort of "not now" and suggest to your husband that you all save up a bit for a "special" trip next winter (February 2009) when it will be warmer there, the children will be older and you will have had a chance to make some of the planning/control your own and he to plan a way to get away from work?