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Originally Posted by divine1966
Do things that don't cost money. Like walk in the park. But frankly if he is asking you out, are you paying for everything? Just your share? Did he ever offered to pay? I am for equality but I'd be suspicious if he at least doesn't offer to treat you (to museum tickets or lunch etc). You can also tell him that you are in a process of job search and need to take few weeks off dating. When I first met my husband we only saw each other every other week one evening because of conflicting schedules and long commutes. No biggie. If it's a right match things work out regardless
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I appreciate the suggestions, trust me, I am all about doing things on the cheap. Our last date was a bike ride, but even then, it still costs me gas money to get out to the trail. Please remember, I live in Florida and it is excessively hot and humid here. As much as I like doing these active things, it has to be on a day and at a time of day where it's not oppressively hot, which is never. Especially if I'm trying to wear some make up and have done my hair and look good. Also, I can only do so much physical activity because I'm overweight and it takes a big strain on my system, so even a walk in the park is a work out for me and not necessarily pleasant.
He did pay for the coffee on our first date, and, while I don't expect him to pay for everything, I would wait to see if he buys me a ticket for the museum first, but I also like to make sure that when I go, I have enough to cover my end just in case. You can't just go in broke expecting that someone else is going to pay, because what if they don't want to?
The museum is only $5 right now, so it's not too bad. I did try to look for when the free days are each month, but they are like Tuesdays during the day, and neither of us can go at that time. I'm also trying to look for something for us to do that might be a little romantic so I can see where this is going...
He knows I'm in the middle of a job search, and has been very supportive.
In a way I'm glad he had to cancel this weekend because it's just a rough time for me for many reasons, so it's okay. Hopefully by next weekend I'll be feeling a little better.
Thanks for all the suggestions and feedback.
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