I've been in your situation. Now that I'm medicated and sober, I am rebuilding trust. My wife is very compassionate, but it doesn't mean that if I hurt her or am unstable around her that she can just let it go. Sometimes the reason for the behavior doesn't make it any less impactful to a partner.

It's commendable that you found the courage to open up the lines of communications. I know it seems like she went back to business as usual, but I'm willing to bet that that's not entirely true. I suspect that she's going to need you to do the heavy lifting on this one at first.

As far as the bedroom, that takes time and trust. I was frozen our for years as well. My willingness to do everything within my power to get level and sober is what helped build that trust. The fact that she has stayed with you says a lot.