Having a great oncologist is very helpful for me, so begin looking in that direction if your surgeon has not already recommended one. Also, there are varieties of mentoring and support programs for people with our conditions. To begin, you might try Imerman Angels. After sharing my details with someone there, I was paired with someone who has the same cancer as well as some first-hand experience with the same treatment as prescribed for me. My own cancer is incurable and surgery would not really help, but learning about what I have and how to best deal with it -- lots of Googling -- has made a tremendous difference for me.