I'd say, I would caution to identify what is important to you in social circles. Is this group of folks, my type, is this a place for me. I like to learn what type people I'm going to be among and will my needs get meet. I know for some places that is hard to determine if it isn't going to be set like new folks all the time. It might actually depend on the structure of the leads. It can be a onoging problem for us though we make sure we disperse our time else where because we can't all in one fell swoop think we are going to gel in this amount of time. I'd like for some things to stay separate until something seems uncomfortable.

I'm working towards more inner peace, resist the need to always having to identify with folks to get your needs meet. Unless this is a practice group of socializing uplifting each as peers.