me too!

at one time, i would have sworn that was my post...almost word for word, and that was my experience of therapy for many years. when it felt like i could no longer take the frustration anymore of the limitations after my T reassured me year after year that we could work through my attachment issues based solely on the extremely limited and lacking relationship with him, i finally gained the courage to vent similar to what you wrote and share that directly with him. needless to say, he really did not take it well and felt slightly attacked or unappreciated, but i could no longer hold on to the empty hope that he repeatedly dangled in my face session after session, year after year.

this is why i so strongly believe that the system is failing those of us with severe childhood trauma and developmental trauma issues. there are too many stories like yours and mine out there of clients not getting the proper healing that they are seeking in psychotherapy and/or even becoming more traumatised because of the experince.

hugs to you peaches... please know you are not alone.