(QM)
Rant: here's a complex trauma survivor with DID saying everything does NOT happen for a reason. That's total and complete BS. Did 6 million people perish in the Holocaust for a reason, for example? 17 million according to some counts? Did we require that loss of life to "teach" us something? Logically... ok, everything that happens has a specific chain of events leading it to come to pass. But the suggestion is always to be looking for some silver lining or to undergo some inner exploration regarding the event. I didn't deserve what happened to me over and over, nor am I (or should I be) thankful for any special lesson or point of view my trauma and condition conferred upon me. And having been a few times around the loop, it certainly doesn't help to ponder the causes. My parents were messed up people before I was even born, I wish they had never gotten married and had kids but I can't change that, and that's it.