Soliaree,
When I ask T how to get rid of things I am experiencing (anxiety, crappy thoughts, obsessive %#@&#!) he says, "just notice it."
Sounds the same kinda advice you are getting. My solutions:
1. I use klonopin when I need it bad
2. I do try to notice these things. When I feel the anxiety creeping up, I reflect and try to figure out what I am anxious about. Usually I can figure it out. Sometimes I haven't a clue. But I question myself and sort of review the past day's events to see if I can "notice" the trigger.
3. I try to meditate, or at least experience mindfulness. I'm not really good at doing this for any great length of time, but it really helps.
((((((soliaree))))))
I hope you feel better.
Peace