Ototot, It does sound like J has caused you great pain. I can tell from your writing how betrayed and manipulated you must have felt as you came to realize the truth behind J's stories. Additionally, it seems J has used a variety of methods to try and stay in your life despite your requests and desires to be left alone.

In terms of your therapy, I would address this directly and as an independent topic than what happened with J. Talk to your pDoc about what specifically she has said/done that have left you feeling unsupported and invalidated. As well as what you need to feel supported and validated.