What do you have to feel guilty about? This is the modus operandi of an abuser; causing you to doubt yourself. You owe it to yourself to work on your own needs and owe him absolutely nothing. It is entirely his own responsibility to work on his life and problems. Let him do that. Why encourage him to control you even more? Why empower him? This is called co-dependent behaviour it is not healthy. There is a thread on here about coddling and I let my opinions be known. Being tough with this situation is the best support you can give yourself.