UI emailed the care coordinator about 6 weeks ago telling her as I was pouring rice, I could hear J sobbing, crying loudly and labelled it myself as emotional memories. Then another time when I saw care coordinator I said one time J and I agreed I text J about seeing J following day but as it happened I slept the whole day and didn't text so called J at 5 pm and I told care coordinator J bawled her eyes sobbing crying wailing loudly over the phone deeply hurt upset over me not texting J as planned j said she'd stayed home all day waiting for text and cancelled plans of previous neighbor visiting. So I took the blame and apologised and said it won't happen again. I felt a lot of guilt.

I recall countless times J crying sobbing wailing loudly once when I put a guy on loudspeaker to speak to us both from online dating app. J refused to speak then proceeded with the sobbing wailing. I've read about crying and now realise J was using it as a tool for manipulation.

J cried and sobbed on and off for one hour. I emailed coordinator saying J was a drama queen for throwing temper tantrum at me for refusing to go to Js house to spend weekend with her and saying things like I won't be inviting you to my house again, collecting things from house pretending it's over and leaving then after one hour saying "I had no intention of leaving, ending it"
Support worker said in response to hearing J wailing emotional memories, that J had really affected me...
Another time I said I'm going home J took me home in her car but showed extreme upset, tears I was leaving, again I just think it was manipulation to make me stay with her
And after ending it with J I realised I was walking on eggshells as to when to tell her to leave my house. Where you fear someones response or walk on eggshells websites say you are being abused....