Even though it doesn't fix the system, I am so glad you all understand this predicament. The anguish is very hard to describe, and it hurts that this person designated to be a trusted guide then encourages such pain while not understanding the suffering that results nor taking any responsibility for it. I had horrible childhood trauma yes, but it was very well walled off by defenses I didn't even know I employed . I do think facing the facts and making it all real is important, but it just may not be survivable with the rip off the band aid and don't- call- me- in- the- morning theory of the frame/ boundaries in which psychologists believe with religious fervor .