You are NOT a jerk in any way for feeling as you do. I totaly get where you're coming from: the "It's NOT a competition.."? OH YEAH, I've actually said that to more than one person! heh.

Unfortunately I'm a person who can get very very sarcastic when anyone starts in on the whole "My life is so much more difficult/harder and less rewarding than yours!!" trip. Not good. :/

If you are overwhelmed, maybe consider taking a /or several steps back from engaging with individuals who seem to be competing? It can help, imo.

Very best to you. Am so in your shoes right now w/someone I'm supposed to be mentoring. Worn out, overwhelmed, and tbh a little disgusted. You sound like a much nicer person!

Best, Chyia