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Old Jan 07, 2008, 10:37 AM
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If I'm "stuck" and can't solve or tolerate a feeling or situation, I throw a hand grenade into my own foxhole and "start over". Just hit the ctrl, alt, delete combination for your mind and give yourself a warm boot.

My favorite response was when we had secret santa in my dorm at college and mine turned out to be my next door neighbor whom I loved. She had a single room and had given me a really nice bra and panty set. I tried it on and then went next door to show her, knocking on her door and then opening it and entering. She wasn't there, just her boyfriend was I had to do an immediate reset and get my mind into another gear. I figured "it's not something he's never seen" and "it looks like a nice bikini bathing suit" so I put on my best modelling persona and gave him a show!

Another thought I use is the quote I like, "When you are being run out of town, get in front and make it look like a parade." Pretend you're a cat and "meant to do that" and just go with your first positive thought or idea about whatever is giving you fits. Indeed you can "change the seating chart" since it's your room, chart, class, anxiety. When I use to put myself down in my thoughts I'd yell in my head, "Support!" and three guys dressed in togas would bring out a Corinthian column and set it up in the "dome" of my head then scurry out the other "ear" :-) Picture your seating chart and make "someone else" sit on the hot seat, then you "leave" and have fun instead, somewhere else.

Laughter relieves stress and lowers anxiety. Might not get rid of it but will get you more "room" to maneuver and think of ways to combat it or will help you sit with it better, making it feel more friendly and less oppositional.
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